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Getting thoughts out.

Loli is a broad term that's lost in translation outside of east Asia.
It can be a body type, child, personality, fashion style, and more.

A 40 year old gravure model can be ロリ巨乳 if she's shorter than 150cm and has boobs bigger than H cup. Measurements like 148T 100B 65W 90H fall under the loli umbrella.

A woman is a lolicon if she finds little girls super cute. A guy is a lolicon if his favorite anime series has magical girls in elementary school. ガチロリ is considered real pedophilia territory if you are sexually attracted to the real human minor.

Kanna from Kobayashi-san's Maid Dragon is a frequently used example of loli for creepy pedophiles. Her design is distinctly childish and she's raised like a child. Her voice is that of a child.
Her school friend is a child. The friend is also a lolicon.

There is a scene where the friend gets a nosebleed from Kanna holding her hand.

In the Japanese fandom, Kanna is just a character. The idea of Kanna can be erotic, in the same way the idea of a Catholic school uniform is in the west. Holding Kanna by the hips and fucking until a new football team is born is a fantasy about a fictional character.

If you have that thought about an actual child, you are a pedophile.
If you fantasize about Judy Hopps and don't want to fuck an animal, you are not a zoophile.
If you want to fuck a real dog, you are a zoophile.

A Catholic school uniform is worn by teenage girls. That does not mean the entirety of the US wants to impregnate a teenage girl in a skirt. It's a fetish comprised of many aspects simplified to "it looks hot."

The fictional character doesn't look like a real child, nor can
you touch her. She is not a real human like your friend's kid.

Your weaboo friend obsessed with maid hentai may not be the best fit for picking your Halloween maid costume. Similarly, someone who loves Taiga from Toradora will make a parent uncomfortable with them babysitting. It's a natural protective reaction. You see the small girl with long hair and the body pillow of her ass out in the friend's room. The complex, yet simple, part about this is how we can tell someone likes kids versus liking characters. It's like how we can tell someone likes parkour for fun versus someone trying to kill themselves.

This is where the combination of misunderstanding and the west's obsession with catching pedophiles mix together, making a dangerous combination that does more harm than good.

Virtue signaling that you're a good person that hates lolicons does no good for the actual, provable pedophiles getting away with crime. The crimes aren't hidden on the dark web anymore. Roblox condos are public rooms for pedophiles to lure children to Discord servers where they request videos of the kids cutting themselves. There are Discord servers for teen boys to rate each others cumshot distance and mutually masturbate in voice chat with older men. Those are where the pedophile hunting should be done.

The LGBTQ space has the older daddy kink for twinks usually underage.
An older man "adopts" a vulnerable, mentally ill twink and partakes in bodily fluid exchange with him. Sometimes the twink eats shit.
Other times it's dog collar and cock cage. Once the twink looks too old, he's thrown away. That twink looks for younger boys.

Pedophiles want children for reasons unrelated to sexual attraction.
It can be a power fantasy, easy target, or trauma response.
Priests are known for touching kids. Doctors fondle kids and the kids don't know any better until their adults. Teachers fuck students after class.
Kids fuck in the P.E equipment shed of their middle school, unknowing of the teacher watching.

Diaperchu moved close to an elementary school.

The "don't click" folder incident of the early 2010's had gigabytes of content you can only get by being in the know. A drawing of the two train conductor lolis from Blue Archive is not the same as a picture of a naked 8 year old boy taken by a parent, uploaded to an invite only i2p site hosted on a VPS in Paraguay.

Contrary to what the internet wants you to believe, it's possible to distinguish fiction from reality, even when you get sexual thoughts about the characters of questionable age. What's entirely understandable is being uncomfortable with a lolicon, or anyone with a fetish related to the personal interaction they'll have, with a group of people.

The most common tag on porn websites is "teen." You will see the word paired with
any other fetish.
Anything you can think of has been searched with "teen" in the tags.

To that end, there are numerous porn studios that put out teen babysitter porn.
The father checks the home cameras to see the babysitter masturbating on his couch.
The actresses in these scenes are above 18, sometimes above 25, and are acting out a fantasy.

This presents a moral dilemma to consider. Is it pedophilia to like the babysitter if she's dressed like a typical teenage babysitter?
Are the clothes she's wearing restricted to school age? What is the appropriate age for the style of skirt or shoes? Can an adult like pig-tails? Is a large male on smaller female considered power fantasy pedophilia?

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